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Resolving Marital Conflict

Hannah Comeaux

Yes, marriage is work, but anything worth investing in takes intentionality and diligence. Here a few tips to build your best relationship by learning to resolve conflict.

1) Establish ground rules for fighting fair. Conflict is stressful but working through it will bring you closer. Collaborate to establish where and when to talk it out. Timing is everything!

2) Discuss the problem, don’t attack the person. Healthy Communication is key, so stay focused on what’s really upsetting you and address that one concern.

3) Use “I” Statements instead of “You” statements. Express how the issue makes you feel rather than putting the other person on defense. Instead of phrases like “you always”, say “I feel hurt when you…”

4) Know your partner’s triggers and avoid them. In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to use their triggers as ammunition but you’ll regret it later. Choose to build up the relationship instead of wounding the person you love!

5) Give yourself a cool off period. When emotions get heated, a “time out” is needed! Wait a few hours and come back to it. This will eliminate saying hurtful things you don’t mean and give you some time to gather your thoughts and say things that do need to be said calmly.

6) Actively Listen to your partner. Take turns hearing each other without interruptions. (Set a timer if needed.) But when it’s time for listening, REALLY LISTEN instead of thinking of your next counterpoint. Then repeat to them what you heard. This will not only keep you on the “same page” but it helps the other person to feel validated.

If you are looking to invest in a better relationship, give us a call at 337-254-1181. Hannah Comeaux, LPC-S, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor. We are located at 1201 Camellia Blvd. Suite 210 in River Ranch. Call us today and let us be a part of your love story!

Hannah Comeaux

Hannah Comeaux is a native of Louisiana and currently resides in Lafayette, LA. She graduated from the University of Louisiana with a double major in Psychology and Sociology then received her Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Louisiana at Monroe. She is a licensed LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) and an LPC-S (Licensed Professional Counselor). She is also a Board-Approved Supervisor of Provisional Licensed Professional Counselors. Comeaux Counseling and Consulting focuses on individuals, couples, children and families working to provide quality care by creating an atmosphere of warmth, acceptance, trust and safety where you are free to examine your thoughts, feelings and actions. Counseling is a process in which we work as a team to explore and identify goals for change established through collaboration with the client(s). We want to help you get the tools to heal from the pain of the past and envision a future full of hope and happiness!